A Guy’s Opinion: Why do men look at other Women?
You might be on a first date, out with your boyfriend or husband, or just hanging with your male friend when you notice him ogling another woman. His behavior may seem wrong in so many ways that you’re not sure if you can actually count them all.
As you’re watching him stare, your head may be filling with thoughts of anger and self-doubt. Or you may be thinking “Doesn’t he know who how rude this is?”And you mean rude to you as much as you mean rude to the woman he’s staring at.
Why is he doing this, and what does it mean? Does he know it’s impolite?
I’m tempted to say it doesn’t mean anything to your man (that may be a gross generalization) ….men will stare at nice cars, boats, or pretty girls without any regard to how their gawking may look to those around him.
It’s universally accepted men are more visually stimulated then women.
If you’re consistently catching your man staring at other women, you may want him to know how it makes you feel, as well as how it looks to others when they see him staring like a dog eyeing a fire truck driving down the street.
Just because your guy isn’t as subtle as you are when looking at other people, I don’t believe his primitive, adolescent gawking is necessarily indicative of unscrupulous behavior.
Besides telling you men are wired that way and you shouldn’t let it concern you, I’d suggest you also consider most men don’t know their behavior could be considered offensive to anyone.
Personally, I didn’t have any idea how this behavior came across to women until I moved to Tribeca in New York City. <em>It was then I felt the discomfort of men staring at me. Until then, I didn’t realize how men’s obvious behavior occurred to women.
I’ve also been on a few dates where the woman I was with checked out other men in front of me. Again, I became aware of the consequences of a behavior which I once indulged in because I thought it went unnoticed or was innocuous.
If your guy is doing this in front of you and it’s making you uncomfortable, I suggest you mention to him how his actions make you feel. If he still doesn’t see why his behavior bothers you, then you may want to gawk at a few men in front of him.
Your looking at other men may help give him a little awareness. After a while, you may want<em> to point out why you were staring – you don’t want him to think you now both have free reign to ogle anyone you please.</em>
So my opinion is to speak with your guy about how his behavior makes you feel, plus make a point to literally show him how it feels when the person you care about stares at others. Hopefully this should help him understand where you’re coming from when you say it bothers you.
The author, Steve, is a 40 year old successful Entrepreneur who lives in the northeast with his wife of seven years and two beautiful children. Steve is an amateur Triathlete who also believes he has a fantastic sense of humor, although this last part is still up for public debate.