Over 30 and Divorced or Single – Which is better?
This is (mostly) a post from earlier in my Blogging Days, but wanted to give it another Special Guest Star appearance after I spoke with someone who told me he “Wasn’t surprised his Ex Girlfriend was still unmarried at 41, because she was Nuts”.
I should mention he’s Married, but cheated on his Wife with her roommate at the time for months prior to their Marriage…what a catch
I find it amusing being over 30 and Divorced gives you more “Street Cred” with most people than if you’re over 30 and have never been Married.
As if the ONLY people who’ve ever been Married are completely normal, attractive and well-balanced. That they’re somehow better than those poor, unlovable slobs who have yet to shell out a ton of money for a Dress that will never be worn again.
(and no, your future Daughter will most likely not wear your Dress someday….if that were so common, you or your Wife would’ve just gone into an Attic to get a gown, and not an overpriced Boutique).
So back to those who’ve been Married being seen as somehow higher on the Food Chain….
Haven’t people noticed the stunning array of Losers who are Married?
I’ve met Married people so unbearable I can’t believe they’ve ever gotten a second date their entire lives. The fact they met someone who promises to have sex with only them, until death do they part, is simply astonishing.
Isn’t that sort of thinking similar to saying a person must be good at sex because they have kids? Okay, maybe it’s not exactly the same…but it’s sort of in the same ballpark. Sort of.
Being very happily Divorced myself, I can honestly say someone having been Married doesn’t mean they’re more lovable or attractive or any other positive adjective. In fact, my being Divorced only means I’ve made a mistake, and have learned quite a bit from it.
But I do have one kick-butt Dress in my Closet.
Footnote: Frankly, the people I really admire are those who pulled the plug on their upcoming Weddings just weeks before the big day.
That takes some serious guts to admit you were about to make a mistake and back out after all the Invitations have gone out and the (expensive, non-refundable) Contracts have been signed.