Comments on: Does your number of sexual partners matter? http://www.averagebutnot.com/2009/09/28/does-your-number-of-sexual-partners-matter/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=does-your-number-of-sexual-partners-matter Relationships, love, sex, and everything in between... Thu, 22 Dec 2011 12:06:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2 By: Aaron http://www.averagebutnot.com/2009/09/28/does-your-number-of-sexual-partners-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-588 Aaron Tue, 27 Oct 2009 08:09:20 +0000 http://www.averagebutnot.com/?p=1747#comment-588 So I'm 24 and have dated a lot in my time but only had two sexual partners. I am however a very sexual person as is my girlfriend. She's bi and I know of a few people that she has been with both male and female and I know she had a threesome with her friend and her ex(which she claims to have not enjoyed and never plans on doing again) so I can recall at least 4 male partners and at least 3 female that I have been told about. I asked the question how many and she would not say. I think it discomforts me not knowing because I have only had 2 sexual partners her being number 2. She won't even tell me if a guess is correct. Thoughts? So I’m 24 and have dated a lot in my time but only had two sexual partners. I am however a very sexual person as is my girlfriend. She’s bi and I know of a few people that she has been with both male and female and I know she had a threesome with her friend and her ex(which she claims to have not enjoyed and never plans on doing again) so I can recall at least 4 male partners and at least 3 female that I have been told about. I asked the question how many and she would not say. I think it discomforts me not knowing because I have only had 2 sexual partners her being number 2. She won’t even tell me if a guess is correct. Thoughts?

]]> By: AnnQ http://www.averagebutnot.com/2009/09/28/does-your-number-of-sexual-partners-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-468 AnnQ Tue, 06 Oct 2009 20:42:51 +0000 http://www.averagebutnot.com/?p=1747#comment-468 Ginny - Completely understand what you mean....I definitely wouldn't want to be with a man who'd been the equivalent of the "village bicycle" (everyone's had a ride). ;-) Whether it's true or not, people want to feel as though what they're being given is special, and not something that's been handed out indiscriminantly. Ginny – Completely understand what you mean….I definitely wouldn’t want to be with a man who’d been the equivalent of the “village bicycle” (everyone’s had a ride). ;-)

Whether it’s true or not, people want to feel as though what they’re being given is special, and not something that’s been handed out indiscriminantly.

]]> By: Ginny http://www.averagebutnot.com/2009/09/28/does-your-number-of-sexual-partners-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-466 Ginny Mon, 05 Oct 2009 22:29:28 +0000 http://www.averagebutnot.com/?p=1747#comment-466 Yes, I agree with Kelly - do you (or they) really want to know? I think some guys do want to know - it goes along with if everyone's had a piece then that girl is not special/discriminating and should be avoided. Men want to chase and don't want someone who is easily caught, by them or by anyone else, especially if it's one that they really like and might want to marry. A few years ago when my husband and I were dating he asked me that question and same reaction - I was just silent (on the phone) we got in a fight because I didn't tell him because I knew he wouldn't like the answer (not that it was so many, but I think anything over 5 would have sent him over the edge.) Really, what good would have come out of it?? Now looking back he's glad I never told him and he said it doesn't matter and doesn't want to know anyway. Yes, I agree with Kelly – do you (or they) really want to know? I think some guys do want to know – it goes along with if everyone’s had a piece then that girl is not special/discriminating and should be avoided. Men want to chase and don’t want someone who is easily caught, by them or by anyone else, especially if it’s one that they really like and might want to marry.

A few years ago when my husband and I were dating he asked me that question and same reaction – I was just silent (on the phone) we got in a fight because I didn’t tell him because I knew he wouldn’t like the answer (not that it was so many, but I think anything over 5 would have sent him over the edge.) Really, what good would have come out of it??

Now looking back he’s glad I never told him and he said it doesn’t matter and doesn’t want to know anyway.

]]> By: AnnQ http://www.averagebutnot.com/2009/09/28/does-your-number-of-sexual-partners-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-433 AnnQ Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:24:31 +0000 http://www.averagebutnot.com/?p=1747#comment-433 I'm a firm believer in that as well....only ask if you <strong>really </strong>want to know. I’m a firm believer in that as well….only ask if you really want to know.

]]> By: AnnQ http://www.averagebutnot.com/2009/09/28/does-your-number-of-sexual-partners-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-432 AnnQ Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:22:46 +0000 http://www.averagebutnot.com/?p=1747#comment-432 Jill - I'm with you....I really don't think it matters. Jill – I’m with you….I really don’t think it matters.

]]> By: AnnQ http://www.averagebutnot.com/2009/09/28/does-your-number-of-sexual-partners-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-431 AnnQ Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:22:00 +0000 http://www.averagebutnot.com/?p=1747#comment-431 Christopher - I always think it's important to <strong>only </strong>ask questions you <em>truly </em>want to know the answer to :-) Christopher – I always think it’s important to only ask questions you truly want to know the answer to :-)

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