Facebook, Twitter responsible for 20% of Divorces?
With Infidelity a hot topic on all News and daytime Talk Shows, I thought it was interesting Lawyers report Facebook, MySpace and Twitter are mentioned as part of the reasons behind 20% of Divorces around the world.
Although the benefit of social networking sites is they’re an easy way to get in touch with people from High School and College we’ve haven’t seen in a long time, that’s also part of the reason they easily lead the way down the path into Infidelity Land.
Meaning, it’s no secret some of the people we choose to get in touch with used to be people we really used to be be in touch with.
Even just 15 years ago – maybe even less – it would have taken a considerable amount of effort to locate, and get in touch with, an old boyfriend or girlfriend if you were wondering what they were up to. Now all you need to do is type their name and hit Enter.
Cheating also happens on networking sites because they provide a great opportunity to meet new people 24/7 (okay, you’re meeting them electronically, but still pretty much meeting them). On top of that, communication is made all the more convenient, and private, with handheld devices, which is how people are increasingly engaging in cheating behavior.
Makes sense, right? If you’re in Miami and feel compelled to tell the man you met from Dubuque he has a nice butt, are you going to do it on the shared family computer or your Blackberry? (If you’re smart, you won’t do it at all….but if you do, I highly recommend not engaging in this behavior on the computer where you daughter does American History homework)
Cheating in mind, one benefit of these sites is suspicious partners are able to do a little Nancy Drew-ing (or Hardy Boy-ing, take your pick)….significant others who have an idea something may be going on can poke around the web and find online evidence of flirting, and sometimes even affairs, whihc is sort of funny to me. It’s not funny from the standpoint of finding your partner out – I think that’s awesome. I just think if you’re cheating, why in the world would you leave an electronic trail all over your Facebook Profile Page?
And that was the primary reason behind the Divorces that mentioned online sites – people found evidence their betrothed were engaging in inappropriate sexual conversations.
I think that brings a whole new meaning to the term “Super Poke”.
I’d kick my husband ass if I found out he was saying sexual things to someone on Twitter or whatever.
Yeah, I have to admit I’d freak out if I found out my wife was Sexting or whatever you want to call it with an old boyfriend, or some new guy.
Oh, I’ve DEFINITELY had people reach out to me on Facebook with the intention of much more than talking about old times.
It is probably true! Finding a way to communicate with old lovers is living your life partially away from your current mate, spouse. it is exciting, feels safe at first , leads to mutual masturbation and more.
Husbands and wives see it as cheating.
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This is really a pet peeve of mine. I guess Facebook is just a sea of temptations for those who don’t have the balls to admit that what they are doing is cheating and nothing but cheating.
Infidelity is of course always infidelity, but somehow I think I would be slightly more understanding of my boyfriend/husband having a drunk night out and ending up in bed with someone (as a one-time occurrence), than if he had been had steamy conversations online with some chick for months and months. Everyone can slip up once or twice, but as for developing an intimate, sort-of sexual relationship with someone online, behind your partner’s back? I would have a hard time forgiving him and ever trusting him again.
I can see how usually-faithful people might explain away what they’re doing at first, and not see the danger in continuing it. That’s scary. And, these types of articles are a healthy reminder to keep yourself in check in your decision making.
I also think it’s scary how easily someone can find you on those things! Privacy and anonymity go out the window.
Sad to say, I don’t find this terribly surprising. Interesting post, Ann! You come up with the coolest topics.
Wow, I never thought twitter could be so…potent for danger! Gosh, how did you find this news out? You discover the most interesting things, and the most facinating topics.
People actually use Facebook for more than just posting stupid status updates and Farmvlle? Seriously??
I’ve heard of a few cases of this very thing happening…. friends of a friend leaving their spouse and moving across the country. Virtual flirting is fun I suppose but there is a fine line.
However, some people just aren’t the settled type. Because if you’re really happily married, then you’re probably not on the computer looking for and indulging in this kind of thing. Partnerships are tough and people are often weak so they go looking for an escape or easy way out. That’s what I think.