Do Double Standards still Exist?
Him: “There was a women on Howard Stern who was filming a Gang Bang with 1,000 guys. One thousand! That’s disgusting! What a gross whore.”
Her: “Sure, that’s gross. But let me get this straight – there’s one disgusting woman. There’s One Thousand disgusting guys.”
Him: “Oh, man. I never thought of it like that before.”
That was a conversation two coworkers had a while back when Howard Stern was still on free radio.
It’s 2010, and times certainly are changing – an African American man is the most powerful person on earth and the Speaker of the House and U.S. Secretary of State are both women…..but do double standards still exist? Do some people still think of men having sex as them ‘getting lucky’ and women as ‘giving it up’?
From what I can see, there does still seem to be a small double standard still floating around. Nothing like things were when my Baby Boomer parents were growing up, when women had to at least pretend to be a virgin until they were married, but there do seem to be slightly different sexual ‘rules’ for men and women.
The Boomers non withstanding, levels of double standards also seem to differ from generation to generation. As a member of Gen X, the expectations we had of women and men’s behavior certainly seemed different from Gen Y, and the rampant Sexting going on in schools.
But even then, girls seem to be slightly more maligned when engaging in promiscuous or sexual behavior than boys.
Additionally, as time goes by and what we’re exposed to in the Media changes, our guidelines for men and women also seem to change. In most open-minded people, like most other topics, our opinions are fluid and can morph over time. I know my opinions on male and female sexual behavior is very different today than what it was 15 years ago.
Nowadays, I find double standards to be demeaning and, frankly, ridiculous.
I’m a big believer both women and men can be sluts – I’ve come across plenty of men I wouldn’t sleep with even if they had a Kevlar Condom.
And I have no qualms in referring to men as whores (and I don’t that in the cutesy “wow-isn’t-he-a-stud” way some people do).
However, no matter what progress has been made in Society – women make up more than 50% of the active workforce and full time students in College, and more than 25% of U.S. women are the Primary Breadwinners at home – it does seem as though people are still slightly more willing to slap the Scarlet Letter on women than men.
Based on how drastically different people’s views of male and female sexual behavior is today in comparison to opinions fifty years ago, I can only assume at some point we’ll get to a place where men and women are seen as equals in every way, even from a sexual standpoint.
Or at least keep moving in the right direction.
(And no, I don’t consider ‘the right direction’ changing our thinking so that sleeping with 1,000 women or men is okay. Or sanitary. Gross. Where the hell are those Kevlar Condoms when people need ‘em…)