Does it matter how you Sleep in bed together?
I was reading an article about how the position you and your partner sleep at night matters.
Meaning, if you’re spooning, it means you’re very much in love and in synch with each other. And if you’re sleeping facing opposite directions, it means you want to smack each other.
(Okay, that’s not exactly what it said. I may have taken a bit of a poetic license with my interpretation.)
Anyhow, you get the gist….many articles I’ve read believe if you sleep like cute little spoons, all snuggled up like two bugs in a rug, things are good, but sleeping many other ways shows some hidden meaning that something bad is going on in your relationship.
In most instances, I don’t believe the position you sleep is indicative of your relationship’s health in any way….unless you’re sleeping in separate rooms. Then I think that’s a position you might want to take notice of.
But I digress. As far as sleep positions not meaning relationship success or failure, I’ll use myself as an example.
Unless I’m absolutely exhausted – or knocked out by an Ambien – there’s no way I can sleep like two teaspoons, all snuggly in bed. I’d absolutely lose my mind if that’s how I had to sleep. I like my space, and I like to cocoon myself up in blankets. In fact, I’ve fallen asleep in the spooning position so few times I can actually remember each time I did.
I can guarantee at no time in my life has falling asleep on my side of the King sized bed been an indication things have taken a horrible turn in my relationship.
What I do think could demonstrate issues is if you used to sleep next to each other, and then you stop doing that. If something changes, my opinion is you may want to ask yourself why things have changed.
What do you think – Does the way you sleep with your partner hold any meaning regarding your relationship? Or is it more indicative of how you like to sleep?
The only time it’s ever meant anything is when we’re sleeping on opposite sides because we’re fighting. Other than that, I don’t think it matters in the least.
Well, it matter for me SOMETIMES. Kind of like you said, if we usually sleep one way and then start sleeping differently or never touching, then we’re usually disconnected in some way.
And for the most part, I feel as though couples sleeping in the “spooning” position is over rated.
Nah. I think it probably matters more how you lay in bed together when you’re NOT sleeping
The Guy and I fall asleep in the “spoon” position, but after that, all bets are off and we’re all over the place.
I agree – I like to sleep on my back, and that doesn’t really lend itself to spooning so well.
Doesn’t mean I don’t love my guy, though!
John – That’s when it matters with me as well (if we’re arguing, I mean
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Jackie – I like spooning….until it’s time to go to sleep. Then get the heck off me.
Bachelor Girl – Nicely put about laying together when you’re not sleeping!
Susan – I sleep on my back, too. And I don’t want another spoon lying on top and squishing me.
Spooning as a prelude to having sex!
Sleeping and keeping physical contact all night, not a restful way to sleep.
Sleeping on top of each other-more sex
Sleeping naked- invites more sex1
Secretia
I find it changes depending on the temperature of the room. Sometimes its too warm to spoon all night
Secretia – fabulous point about spooning…in my current relationship, it almost always seems to be a prelude to sex
I have a hard time getting to sleep and need absolute stillness in order to do so; my husband, on the other hand, falls asleep almost instantly and rolls around constantly, which prevents me from getting to that crucial knocked out moment, and my wanting/requesting him to be absolutely still inhibits his restfulness, which involves moving around, so we sleep separately only ’cause we have to in order to accommodate each other’s falling asleep needs.
But, the spooning does happen, and we do have our me falling asleep on his shoulder moments, and I agree with BG that how you’re lying when you’re NOT asleep says a lot, too.
I dont think it matters..we were resistant to get a King because we felt like we would sleep too far away from each other. We got one, we do sometimes sleep far away from each other but its fine.
I like my space in bed. Don’t touch me, don’t come near me and give me space to stretch out my legs.
HAha, I never even really considered before…but I generally think that facing each other while sleeping is pretty creepy…and tha above picture with the couple hugging each other in their sleep…isn’t that so uncomfortable? Besides, I kick in my sleep, so unless the guy wants to wake up clutching his nuts, he better keep off! >:-)
I think it’s more important what you do BEFORE you fall asleep and JUST AFTER you wake up that matters most, not if you spoon all night long……seriously, how can people really sleep soundly like that?? I like my space and my end of the bed when it comes to the Zzzzz’s. But we make it a point to snuggle beforehand and right after waking up. To me, that’s a healthy relationship.
That’s ridiculous. I mean, we don’t sleep ass to ass, but I need a buffer zone! It’s already too hot with the cats on top of me.
What?
I just can’t agree that the way you sleep is an indicator to the state of your relationship. What you say and do during your conscious hours obviously is the only thing that matters. As the question conserns sleep and not the possibility of sex, then personal comfort to help induce sleep is all most people care about!